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ArticlesDIVORCE IN A NUTSHELL In my opinion and if I hear God right which I believe I do.......(but still open to correction!) if divorce is a sin then it is no worse than any other sin. How many couples actually consult God when they want to get married? Not too many I fear. Loads of people think that just because they are both Christians its ok to get married. But its not enough just to have God in our lives....... We need to have much more in common and He expects that too.... we need to be 99% equally yoked (the 1% is because we are not perfect) spiritually/emotionally/physically/intellectually/interests. God does need to be at the centre of our lives in every way. I repeat - So many Christians think that by both serving God its ok to get married. So what happens when one or both spiritually die or go through deep waters........hullo...they realise they have nothing else in common. Or along comes abuse - physical or emotional. What happens to the relationship? Your partner needs to be your best friend too. Someone with whom you can share EVERYTHING, pray/laugh/cry/have fun/be serious together. Pillow fights are important. We need to bring out the best in each other. If one or both parties stifle each other/if there is jealously/manipulation/control in the relationship then that is not God. So what happens................. God would far rather us separate than face an empty life in a loveless or selfish abusive marriage. (Thereby bringing dishonour to God) We live by Grace and not by law. And despite many Theologian' s thoughts that it is wrong to remarry. ..... what happened to the Grace of God.............What happened to "forget what lies behind and press on towards the goal set before us"............God wants us to wipe our slates clean and move on........ or my most favourite scripture - Jeremiah 29 vs 11 (and this was not just for a select few) - "For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord. "Plans to give you a hope and a future" MARRIAGE is an attitude as is LOVE............ A loveless marriage can hardly change if there is no love but of course God can put the love back in marriage IF the couple have a change of attitude and WANT change...... but very often its too late. Also many people fail to see that the bible speaks in many places w.r.t. remarrying. It might tell us that we cannot remarry unless our partner dies or our partner being unsaved walks out of the marriage. There are other scriptures that tell us differently. What about this one?Its better to stay single - but rather marry than burn with passion.......and that is not just a select few....it talks of everyone. Plus I could share other scriptures but I think you know your bible. Is it ok to marry a divorced person? Of course it is! God looks at the heart of man and not circumstances. Anyway what about forgiveness and the Grace of God? Just as long as that person is totally healed from their broken marriage and not walking into his/her next relationship with baggage. Healing, deliverance and counsel is a must before entering into their next relationship. I do not believe that God made us to be alone unless of course we chose to be. He does not force His will on us. Sadly (and this happened to me thus have walked this particular road) desperation makes us do things in haste. Many are so desperate to get married that reality flies out of the door and instead we are faced with consequences/circumstances which we need to deal with. If they can be overcome then that is wonderful but more often than not, they are not....resulting in divorce. Be careful of the most popular and frequent scenario. "God told me you will be my wife/husband. Fine! But make sure God tells YOU too. Then of course there is the baggage ....... we need complete healing, deliverance and counsel to make sure we do not take our baggage into the next relationship. More often than not, we get out of one relationship and jump straight into another....... without being totally healed. In essence our past will affect our present which will have a lasting affect on our future. If we are still walking in fear w.r.t. relationships. Then bottom line - Has there been total healing in that area? Does this mean that is OK to marry then if it does not work out to simply file for divorce? Absolutely not......... There are consequences to every choice we make and decision we make. Therefore we have to reap what we sow. The bottom line is ATTITUDE. What about marrying someone with a PAST or has had a lousy upbringing which has affected his/her life...........We are not products of our upbringing.......What we do with our lives depends on US.......and how we ALLOW God to change us. Despite the cliché that a "leopard cannot change its spots"......... I can vouch for this......IT CAN AND DOES. I would be a total wreck if I allowed my upbringing to manipulate and control my present life. Yes it took me years to CHANGE.......but it only took that long because of ME and not because of God.......!! Yes God's timing is perfect and yes ALL THINGS WORK FOR THE GOOD TO THOSE WHO LOVE GOD.. |
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