Frequently Asked Questions
Need answers to questions on our personalised
one-on-one (Born-Again) Christian Singles Introduction/Dating
Service/Agency, or just having problems? Look through the
topics below to find the answers to our most frequently asked
QUESTION: How old do I have to be
ANSWER: You must be 18 years or older to
QUESTION: Is this Introduction Service
only for committed (born-again) Christians?
presume that the people that visit our website are committed
(born-again) Christians and have come to this website to meet
other like-minded Believers with similar interests and
beliefs. We trust that everyone who joins as a member will
conduct themselves in a Christian-like manner. We cannot
guarantee that everyone that visits this site is a committed
(born-again) Christian, however only committed (born-again)
Christians are eligible to become members. Having said this,
we are not a site per se. We are NOT an Internet Dating
Service, rather we are a personalised one-on-one Christian
QUESTION: I am separated
from my spouse - the divorce is pending - can I join in the
ANSWER: Unfortunately no. Amongst other reasons -
In a nutshell - Although you might not be living as husband
and wife - technically you are still married. That door of
your life needs to be firmly shut!! You can only literally
move on once your divorce is final.
Connecting Christians fall under any
particular church group?
ANSWER: No! We are open to all
unattached committed (born-again) Christians from any bible
based/Trinity centred (God the Father, His son Jesus Christ
and Holy Spirit) denomination
my private information stay private?
ANSWER: Absolutely! We
are 100% committed to your privacy. We do not sell your
information to any marketers or sales people. Your safety and
security is our primary concern.
QUESTION: Does the
member search, exclude, race, colour and ethnicity?
Yes it does, however you can specify which race, colour and
ethnicity you are interested in. (Without prejudice!) Kindly
note: Your preference in this regard is totally at YOUR own
discretion - not ours!
QUESTION: Can I become a
success story one day, so that my testimony can encourage
other Christian singles?
ANSWER: Yes. Nothing would give us
more joy than for you to become a success story and for you to
share your testimony to encourage other Christian singles.
Permission granted by yourselves of course!
What if my personal details change?
ANSWER: Contact us as
soon as possible and we will make sure that your details are
QUESTION: Should I send a photograph?
ANSWER: Photographs are NOT posted on our website or any other
Internet service. A non photograph will not influence
your chances of meeting someone special, however, strongly
recommended, (as they assist us in the selection process, as
we do not have the opportunity to meet each and every member).
As per the membership form (where applicable) you have the
choice to indicate a) For RECORD purposes only (in which case
members are welcome to exchange photos between themselves) b)
Your photo will be attached to your profile and forwarded to
QUESTION: Do you have do's and don'ts
for a photograph?
ANSWER: We reserve the right to edit,
crop or reject any photos. The following will be rejected:
Nude, obscene, sexual or otherwise offensive photos.
QUESTION: What are the membership fees?
ANSWER: Click onto
T&C’s, Membership fees and form and
once you have fully understood and read the Terms and
Conditions, click onto shaded paragraph for costs and the
QUESTION: Once I have completed the
form and submitted it to you, am I obligated to join as a
member of Connecting Christians?
ANSWER: Obligated, NO! But
since you have completed it, we encourage you to follow
through with membership as you never know what surprise God
might have in store for you.
QUESTION: What happens if
after I have joined, I get "cold feet"?
ANSWER: The most
important aspect of meeting people is to have fun and enjoy
the experience. You are not going to get married tomorrow or
the next day or even the day after that (but having said this,
let us not limit God!). Having a cup of coffee does not
necessarily mean commitment or marriage . Its friendship first
and foremost. No pressure, just relax and have fun.
QUESTION: What are my payment options?
bank deposit/internet transfer. Regret no cheques accepted.
QUESTION: If I cannot afford the Membership Fee?
ANSWER: Our aim is to make this service affordable to all
unattached committed (born-again) Christians. Having said
this, we have a heart for single Moms and other unattached
Christians who are genuinely going through "financial hard
times" And if you believe you fit into these categories, we do
offer reduced fees (purely at our discretion). Thus no one is
prevented from joining. And the onus is on you to share this
with the Facilitator. However, you do need to first complete
the membership form, in order for us to have your details on
hand whilst praying for you.
QUESTION: How do I cancel
ANSWER: Email us stating your reasons and we
will do the necessary. Kindly do not phone or SMS/WhatsApp in
QUESTION: When will my billing be stopped?
ANSWER: The Terms of payment of fees are payable before your
membership becomes active. Your membership will continue until
your duration of membership expires, unfortunately there are
no refunds for early cancellation.
QUESTION: How do I
re-instate my membership?
ANSWER: Simply contact us and
after we have received payment we will reinstate your
QUESTION: If I cancel, will I still be
able to stay in contact with the friends I have made through
ANSWER: Yes, you can. However, it is
up to each individual.
QUESTION: I cannot use my work
e-mail address for personal e-mail. Can I still join?
ANSWER: The best option would be to create your own personal
email address. We encourage you to make use of e.g. an
Internet Cafe or Library. If you cannot download your mail
from your office PC, you could even use a family member's or
friends PC! And of course your Mobile device!
Can I update my profile anytime?
ANSWER: Yes. Updates to
your profile are free. Just send us an email and we will
update any details that have changed.
Geographic area limitations?
ANSWER: There is no
geographic area limitation. Any where any place.
QUESTION: How is the search run for my perfect match?
ANSWER: We sort in this order: geographical area, gender, age
bracket, children at home, height range, interests, then see
what the other person's looking for. Sometimes a gent might be
looking for a younger woman, but she may not be looking for an
older gent etc. It should match both ways (or as close as
QUESTION: What happens if I don't get
profiles right away?
ANSWER: You will receive profiles.
Membership is constant and daily and we believe there is
always someone for everyone!
QUESTION: What happens
when someone new joins and I am the right match?
When a new person joins and you are a potential match, we
forward them your profile) and you receive theirs. Members
have direct contact with one another.
if it's really a mismatch?
ANSWER: Just let us know and if
you can not deal with it, we will contact the other member and
advise them. Please, don't just snub someone because they are
not the right match. All of us can always use a new friend. If
you are really are not interested, please be so kind as to let
the other person know. Sensitivity and wisdom in this regard
QUESTION: What can I do to get a lot of
ANSWER: If you give us a large scope to work on,
we will have a wider choice of people to match you with.
QUESTION: Do you give out my or any other member’s
ANSWER: Never! Only member’s
name, email/mobile number and short profile.
Will my details appear on your website?
Only your name, email address, mobile number and
profile (brief description plus interests) are forwarded to
selective members who fit your profile likewise you will
receive same. (View example on HOW
THIS WORKS page)
QUESTION: If I meet someone
through Connecting Christians and we both
request that we be placed "on hold" and the relationship does
not work out, can I be reinstated without having to repay the
ANSWER: Yes, if it is during your
membership period. The same would apply if you wish to be
placed on "on hold" for any other reason.
Can I join for less than stipulated period?
Unfortunately no. Various packages offered to suit everyone!
Please refer to Membership fees.
QUESTION: And if I
happen to be in another part of the country for a short period
of time, can I contact people in that area?
that is the beauty of the Service.
QUESTION: Should I
meet someone through Connecting Christians are we obligated to
inform you of our intention to get engaged or married?
ANSWER: Obligated No! But we encourage you to let us know (A
wedding photo would be nice for our records). Remember our
success rate and your happy announcements go hand in hand!
QUESTION: Do I have to come to you for the interview?
ANSWER: Unfortunately no! Otherwise I would be travelling all
over the country and never be at home! Membership is handled
via email and over the phone if necessary. It works very well!
QUESTION: Do I get a discount if I get one or more friends
ANSWER: Yes! Refer to Terms and Conditions
QUESTION: After my membership expires or I cancel for any
reason, can I get back my photo and what happens to my
ANSWER: All is filed for recorded purposes. Photos
are not returnable.
QUESTION: Can I phone anytime?
ANSWER: Only during the given times and regret NOT ON A
SUNDAY. (Refer to Terms and Conditions of
QUESTION: I need an email address to
ANSWER: Yes you do! (For my benefit in order
to email you profiles, correspondence between us and between
you and members). An initial email between members and
thereafter members are welcome to SMS/WhatsApp/Skype/Phone one
another as mutually pre arranged.
QUESTION: How many
introductions (profiles) do I receive?
ANSWER: There is no
limit to the amount at any given time during duration of
QUESTION: How many members do you have?
ANSWER: Not any easy question to answer. Lets try to answer it
this way. We have been in operation since 1987. This service
is BLESSED & SUCCESSFUL. Membership grows DAILY. Many online
services might tell you they have e.g. 15 000 members. (That
possibly includes members PAST & PRESENT, members "on hold"
for whatever reason, non paying members (who might have just
completed the membership form online but have as yet not
officially joined or paid the membership fee) etc etc. If we
were to include all these members, we could tell you we have
50 000 members!! There are many /friendship services. We are
not online per se (which means Members do not connect with
others via the website - but connect DIRECTLY.) We are not
worldwide. We chose not to be. Our membership is in the region
of 2500+ ACTIVE members. (From all walks of life, age &
ethnical origin) Remember the larger the membership the harder
it becomes to maintain a PERSONALISED service. We do not want
to lose the HANDS ON approach. We also believe that God would
not want you to become JUST a number. We are EXCLUSIVE to
committed (born-again) Christians. Which makes Connecting
Christians exclusive!! Specialised!! QUALITY rather than
QUANTITY! Thus we can share with you that we are one of the
largest one-on-one Christian dating/friendship Introduction
services in South Africa.
We hope we've
answered all your questions, if you have others,
just e-mail Debbie
"Dont stop praying" "Believe and you will receive"
( The Living Bible)
1 Thessalonians 5 vs 17